Book Summary - The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking

The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking

This is Dorothy Carnegie's summary of her book, from 1962, which is based on Dale Carnegie's Public Speaking and Influencing Men in Business, from 1931.

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Table of Contents

1. Fundamentals of Effective Speaking
2. Speech, Speaker, and Audience
3. The Purpose of Prepared and Impromptu Talks
4. The Art of Communicating
5. The Challenge of Effective Speaking

Part One: Fundamentals of Effective Speaking

1. Acquiring the Basic Skills

• Take heart from the experience of others
• Keep your goal before you
• Predetermine your mind to success
• Seize every opportunity to practice

2. Developing Confidence

• Get the facts about fear of speaking in public
• Prepare in the proper way
• Predetermine your mind to success
• Act confident

3. Speaking Effectively the Quick and Easy Way

• Speaking about something you have earned the right to talk about through experience or study
• Be sure you are excited about your subject
• Be eager to share your talk with your listeners

Part Two: Speech, Speaker, and Audience

4. Earning the Right to Talk

• Limit your subject
• Develop reserve power
• Fill your talk with illustrations and examples
• Use concrete, familiar words that create pictures

5. Vitalizing the Talk

• Choose subjects you are earnest about
• Relive the Feelings you have about your topic
• Act in earnest

6. Sharing the Talk with the Audience

• Talk in terms of your listeners' interests
• Give honest, sincere appreciation
• Identify yourself with the audience
• Make your audience a partner in your talk
• Play yourself down

Part Three: The Purpose of Prepared and Impromptu Talks

7. Making the Short Talk to Get Action

• Give your example, an incident from your life
• State your point, what you want the audience to do
• Give the reason or benefit the audience may expect

8. Making the Talk to Inform

• Restrict your subject to fit the time at your disposal
• Arrange your ideas in sequence
• Enumerate your points as you make them
• Compare the strange with the familiar
• Use visual aids

9. Making the Talk to Convince

• Win confidence by deserving it
• Get a Yes-response
• Speakin with contagious enthusiasm
• Show respect and affection for your audience
• Begin in a friendly way

10. Making Impromptu Talks

• Practice impromptu speaking
• Be mentally ready to speak impromptu
• Get into an example immediately
• Speak with animation and force
• Use the principle of the Here and the Now
• Don't talk impromptu--Give an impromptu talk

Part Four: The Art of Communicating

11. Delivering the Talk

• Crash through your shell of self-consciousness
• Don't try to imitate others--Be yourself
• Converse with your audience
• Put your heart into your speaking
• Practice making your voice strong and flexible

Part Five: The Challenge of Effective Speaking

12. Introducing Speakers, Presenting and Accepting Awards

• Thoroughly prepare what you are going to say
• Follow the T-I-S Formula
• Be enthusiastic
• Thoroughly prepare the talk of presentation
• Express your sincere feelings in the talk of acceptance

13. Organizing the Longer Talk

• Get attention immediately
• Avoid getting unfavorable attention
• Support your main ideas
• Appeal for action

14. Applying What You Have Learned

• Use specific detail in everyday conversation
• Use effective speaking techniques in your job
• Seek Opportunities to speak in public
• You must persist
• Keep the certainty of reward before you 

Source: https://westegg.com/unmaintained/carnegie/easy-speaking.html

21 TRAITS OF HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL BILLIONAIRES

1.     Oprah Winfrey (queen of daytime television): grateful

"Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough."

2.     Warren Buffet: patient

"It's pretty easy to get well-to-do slowly. But it's not easy to get rich quick."

3.     Bill Gates: humble

"I essentially sacrifice nothing that I want, and there are people who are out in the field and they are giving more."

4.     Larry Ellison (founder of Oracle Corporation, the second-largest software company in the world): inquisitive

"The most important aspect of my personality, as far as determining my success goes, has been my questioning conventional wisdom, doubting experts and questioning authority," Ellison said. "While that can be painful in your relationships with your parents and teachers, it's enormously useful in life."

5.     Michael Bloomberg (making financial information available to people right on their desktops): brave

"Life is too short to spend your time avoiding failure."

6.     Mark Zuckerberg: persistent

7.     Sheldon Adelson (CEO of the Las Vegas Sands Corporation): tenacious

8.     Sergey Brin (Google Co-founder): innovative

“Innovation was always the forefront of his motivation to succeed.”

9.     Donald Trump: passionate

"Without passion, you don't have energy; without energy, you have nothing,"

10.Jeff Bezos (Amazon Founder): courageous

"I cannot overstate how important incremental innovation is. But for the big innovation, you have to be willing to fail."

11.George Soros: curious

12.Carl Icahn: competitive

13.Steve Ballmer (Former Microsoft co-worker): detail-oriented

"Is a master of precision questioning to analyze and get to the root issues of any problem whether it is business or technology related."

14.Phil Knight (co-founder of Nike): determined

With an initial investment of just $1,000, Knight sold his shoes from the back of a station wagon to local runners and eventually grew the company into a worldwide leader with $27.8 billion.

15.Michael Dell (Founder & CEO of Dell technologies): confident

"You don't have to be a genius or a visionary or even a college graduate to be successful. You just need a framework and a dream."

16.Charlie Ergen (Former President and CEO of Dish Network and EchoStar Communications Corporation): visionary

17.Larry Page (Google Co-founded): intuitive

“It's a good thing he listened to his gut.”

18.Charles and David Koch: strategic

"A lot of companies — and we've been guilty of this in the past — want to hire the smartest person, the most talented person," Charles Koch said. "Well, the worst thing we can do, as we found, is hire a very talented person with poor values. If we are going to hire somebody with poor values, we want somebody who's not very smart, because he or she will do less damage."

19.Jan Koum (WhatsApp Owner): creative

20.Richard Branson (Virgin Group Founder): fearless

"You don't learn to walk by following the rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over." “You’ve got to get out of your comfort zone and take risks if you want to achieve greatness.”

21.Mark Cuban (Owner of the National Basketball Association's Dallas Mavericks, co-owner of 2929 Entertainment and chairman of AXS TV): charming

Cuban knows the importance of winning hearts and minds. "People hate dealing with people who are jerks," Cuban said. "It's always easier to be nice than to be a jerk. Don't be a jerk."

Source: http://www.businessinsider.com/21-traits-of-highly-successful-billionaires-2015-2#richard-branson-fearless-20

 

Inspirational Albert Einstein Quotes

Inspirational  Albert Einstein quotes

Albert Einstein was a German-born physicist who predicted the existence of gravitational waves 100 years ago and developed the theory of relativity. He is considered the most influential physicist of the 20th century. Einstein’s intellectual achievements and originality have made the word “Einstein” synonymous with genius. Here are some great quotes that take you inside Einstein’s revolutionary mind.

Inspirational  Albert Einstein quotes

1. “You can never solve a problem on the level on which it was created.”

2. “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

3. “Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited, whereas imagination embraces the entire world, stimulating progress, giving birth to evolution.”

4. “Logic will get you from A to Z; imagination will get you everywhere.”

5. “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.”

6. “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”

7. “I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious.”

8. “Be a loner. That gives you time to wonder, to search for the truth. Have holy curiosity. Make your life worth living.”

9. “Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.”

10. “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

11. “You never fail until you stop trying.”

12. “In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”

13. “Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”

14. “The woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been before.”

15. “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

16. “Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.”

17. “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”

18. “Only those who attempt the absurd can achieve the impossible.”

19. “The only sure way to avoid making mistakes is to have no new ideas.”

20. “The only source of knowledge is experience.”

Adapted from MATEUSZ and I just want to repost here

Our up coming event

Life Transforming

I have a good education, good career and good family. Is it enough? Am I satisfy with this great achievement?

THE ANSWER IS NOT

So, what are my next dreams, goals and mission?

I satisfy my previous achievements such as:

1) Education
- I have BA in Psychology and Master in Education from RUPP. Moreover, I have study master level of leadership, relationship and self development with B Sam.
- I have a good foundation of English capacity, I'm lucky to experience in a good language school such as ACE, Collingwood and other schools.

2) Career
I have a job I like as a social worker at PSE after I graduated. Then I worked famous NGO in social work was SSC, as a social worker and social work trainer. Currently, I'm working as a HR Manager at good company IBC. In addition, I'm honor to work for NTI as a trainer and HR Director with a great gentle man Sin Dara.

3) Family
I have a smart and wise wife who always understand and support me. She is a young lady who tease me to be angry but she has a vision of family and life. She always support me in term of emotional. She want me to be the best.

All of these achievements make me of proud of and satisfy my life. I appreciate and grateful of what I have and grateful of people support me whether direct and indirect. 

IMPORTANT
But I feel sorry for do not have a great guideline and support to make my life better and greater. It is never too late. That why I'm writing here. I cannot change the past but I use the past experiences to guide and strengthen what I'm going to do next. 

• I know if I have a good English, I will be better than today. I missed the chance to study in Australia and New Zealand because I didn't have a qualify English language. So, what I have to next study English to get IELTS 6.5 - 7.5. And if I have a good English, I can have a good work with high pay in a good working place such as international organization or international company.
• Career: some career is good but low pay, some career is not good but good pay, some career is good and high pay. That what I want! How to this career? Strong education background, strong experience background, and good attitude. I have some of them that mean that I'm on the right track so what to do? I have to have a great network, learn to sell or present myself to others, have a great productivity, and so on.
• Self Development
• Self discipline
• New habit of reading, practicing English exercise, regular exercise, not talk negative about other people, think as positive as I can to the world.

More detail will be posted 

Excited and honored for "Khmer Hero Award"

On Sunday, NTI celebrated its first graduation for bachelor class of 2011. It our history to start our first promotion. Founder R. Sam Tiv and Executive Director Sin Dara spent his time, energy, money and everything of them to teach and support students improving their quality of life. The class is short but useful, helpful and effective. Students apply lessons immediately after they are learning in class, and they find it effective to enhance their life to be productive and happy.

Most excited thing was students received their degree on the boat after they finished class. However, students presented back some awards to founder, executive director and HR director. As a HR Director, I do nothing to help them for running the class. I was surprised so much because those students presented me an award "Khmer Hero".

Taing Sopheap, representative of those student had a speech before she handed out the award. She said that "my family and I faced very hard situation so it caused me to not believe people in this world. Bong Vanni is the once who made me believe people again. I wonder there is a person like her in this world. But in fact, there is! It gave me hope because I have joined his class last year. He help me so much. I really appreciate of what he has done for us."

I just rewrite her words from oral speech, so it may error or miss something. But it touched me so deep and I keep his words in my heart forever. It contributes meaning to my life because of her words and the award from students. I work is not because of award or recognition but recognition and award and give me much energy and I feel like I do the right thing so I continue doing this in the future.